WHAT AND IF
– two innocent little words, and perfectly harmless on their own,
but put them together and a perfect recipe for anxiety ensues.
Defeat the common anxiety of "What if?' with these tips..
Instead of expecting the future to give you something specific, focus on what you'll do to create what you want to experience.
I can make a list for what I would do if I were to move versus what I'd do if I stay local. Obviously, the latter doesn't require much change, so all I really need is one plan and the flexibility to embrace it if necessary.
The second we start indulging fear, we tend to get lost in a cycle of reactionary thoughts. “I might be lonely” leads to “How will I meet people?” Before you know it, I've somehow traveled all the way to “What if I become a recluse, start overeating, and develop restless leg syndrome from sitting too much—alone—on my couch?”
Okay, so that's a slight exaggeration. The point is that speculation leads to feelings, which can lead to more speculation and then more feelings. It helps to stop the cycle by recognizing the feeling—in that case, fear—and the reminding yourself: I can't possibly predict the future, but I can help create it by fostering positive feelings about the possibilities.
By working with a qualified professional, you can build new and far superior coping skills while discarding what does not work for you. They can give you the tools to work through life less anxious and more in control knowing that you aren’t going to war unarmed.
Incorporate stress reduction techniques into your day, ideally meditation or instructor led yoga, even if just for a few minutes a day. Seek out a qualified yoga instructor who can teach you and tailor specifically to your body’s needs. Finding your center will help you feel better prepared to tackle whatever comes your way.